S4, E05: Past the Past

Fatima lost her mother to suicide, at just two years old, and had no relationship with her father. The trauma of her past and never witnessing a successful relationship brought difficulty in her own relationships. She’s sharing how she learned to accept her past and gain strength from it. Fatima is also discussing why she believes it’s important to keep your ego and your pride.

About the Guest

Fatima Kanji was born and raised in Dar es Salaam, Tanzania, went to the University of North Texas and has worked in Africa, America and Australia. Her career has mostly been in IT in the financial, manufacturing, distribution, software development and non-profit industry.

Growing up Fatima hardly had any ready-made clothes. Most of her clothes were second hand, hand me downs which were altered by her grandmother and tailors that exposed her to fabrics and the art of turning any fabric into clothing and homeware. In 2013, Fatima was fortunate to travel in East and West Africa, which reintroduced and ignited her love for custom made clothing using pure cotton African fabrics. Fatima is a firm believer of “trade not aid” and decided to start Pensar Africa.

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