Why It’s Time to Let Go of Friendships that No Longer Serve You

December 19, 2016


Friendships should contribute to your growth 


Over the last few years, I have made a conscious decision to leave some friends behind, not because they intentionally hurt me, but because they were not forwarding to the purpose and vision of my life. I used to believe that letting go of a friendship required evidence of substantial betrayal; like some atrocious act had to be committed to sever ties from someone that no longer meet my needs.


Your friends should bring something more to the table than just ‘being around.’  True friends are a part of your team and each person plays a position. Some are your career motivators, some calm you down in times of high stress, and some are your shoulder to cry on. When you think of your friends, you should know how they add value to your life. If you don’t know what position they are playing, chances are that they are dead weight on your team. That may sound harsh, but we have limited time and resources and dead weight friendships will eventually weigh you down.


Did you know that most NFL are not given guaranteed contracts? Essentially they are trying out every season and they are not automatically grandfathered into the team. They cannot come back to the team simply because they played last season. We have all found ourself with friends that are only our friends simply because they have been our friends; the type of friendships that rely solely on history. If we met some of those friends today, we would not take on a new friendships with them. History has great value and helped mold us into the people we are today, but a true and lasting friendship needs more to stand on.


Everyone in your life should contribute your growth. If you find yourself with friends that do not forward your life, it may be time to re-evaluate the friendship.